I know, you are asking yourself, “Why is he writing about that?” Well, it is because at least twice a month one of our candidates loses an opportunity for a job offer because of their manners…mostly table manners.
Just this week…the reason I’m writing this..one of our v.p. candidates lost an opportunity because he went to lunch with the CEO and two other vice presidents and, to quote the CEO, “he acted like it was the first meal he had all week.” On top of that, he ate his salad so fast, “he sent dressing flying onto his tie.” End of consideration. The group doing the hiring was appalled.
We had a candidate sometime back who lost the opportunity because, at a meeting over coffee at the local Starbucks, he slurped his coffee instead of drinking it. The hiring authority was so annoyed he decided not to hire the candidate.
it seems to me that many of the generations in the workplace just aren’t as concerned about manners as they used to be. My casual observation of the generations behind me (… I’m a boomer) is that people’s table manners just aren’t as good as Mama taught us. This isn’t a criticism so much as it’s an observation.
So, here are some thoughts about interview “meals”:
- Practice your table manners with someone who loves you or likes you enough to be willing to criticize/help you with any glaring problems you may have… Slouching over your food, talking with food in your mouth, or eating sloppily
- Try to avoid these kind of interviews if you can
- Never, never, ever drink alcohol in this interviewing setting
- Order your food after you see what your host is ordering. Don’t appear to be taking advantage of a “free lunch” by ordering something on the high side of the menu
- Order something easy to eat… A small piece of meat, a chicken breast, etc.… that can be cut into small pieces
- Take bites small enough that you can talk with them in your mouth… This means very, very small bites
- Stay away from soups, chili, spaghetti, etc. or anything eaten with a spoon or that can be easily spilled
- Eat a little something before you go to the interview so you don’t appear ravenous or even hungry
- Remember, it’s an interview, not a meal
Don’t let that interview “meal” be your downfall.