Often, when I’m coaching candidates to be very aggressive and ask the kind of questions I wrote about last week, they say things to me like, “well, Tony, I don’t want to appear desperate and coming on that strong makes me look like I am.”<\/p>\n
This couldn’t be further from the truth. It all depends on the attitude you take in asking the questions… if you ask the questions in a nervous, desperate, fearful manner, you will appear desperate.<\/p>\n
The way to keep from appearing desperate and\u00a0still \u00a0be intense comes along with the idea of focusing on the process<\/em> and not the result<\/em>. If\u00a0as a\u00a0matter of the interviewing process, you get in the habit of asking everybody you interview with, “are you going to hire me?” or “are you going to recommend that I be hired?”and you practice these questions so well they simply become a part of your natural interaction with an interviewing or hiring authority (i.e. part of your process), then they will come across as confident with no fear of the answer.<\/p>\n If you focus on the process and even get a “no” for an answer, you’ll simply move on to the next opportunity. If you get a “yes,” you will simply move on to the next step in the process.<\/p>\n That’s the difference between being desperate and intense… focusing on the process and not worrying about the result.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Often, when I’m coaching candidates to be very aggressive and […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n